Harvey Weinstein, Matt Lauer, Donald Trump, and the list goes on, America knows the face of the a power, controlling male dominating culture sex abuse. The forward backlash to Sexual Harassment in America has again rose to The Fight. This time people are listening.
Victims of Hollywood and Congress are sharing, their stories of abuse and harassment across all media platforms. In depth coverage, speaking out against the silence of abuse and control of the victims voice. Unfortunately, many of the victims are heard because the perpetrators are men of Power, favored by the elite and wealthy.
When Tarana Burke started the “#MeToo” campaign back in 2007 for survivors to support one another. It is now the perfect mantra to say it happened, is still happening and you’re not alone. Regardless to how much money you have, your race, or where you live. You’re not alone. Your men have your back.
The government and many companies have recently taken swift action to hold some perpetrators accountable. In the meantime, social climate of acceptance of this behavior is being rejected. The “sex cult” accusations and calls for cancellations of R. Kelly concerts, #muterkelly are definite signs of resistance. Men involved in sex with girls and teenagers should no longer be applauded in our community, workplace and definitely not the concert . If your business, of any kind, thrives on the abuse, disrespect and domination of teenagers and women…resistance awaits and possibly jail.
The message is pretty clear. You may get away with sexual harassment for a moment, a day, maybe even years. Just know that more and more victims are finding away to speak up, to stand against those who have power. If you have the power to do what the president said he did, move on a woman like a bitch, grab’em by the pussy…you should resist.
Of course all men are not abusers or pedophiles, or feel they have power and control when it comes to women. There are plenty of men who love, honor and respect all women. Its shown on our jobs, in our homes and overall in our society. These men bring hope and change to the attitudes and behavior of the next generation of men. Here are some things I think we can do to help in the fight against Sexual Harassment:
As men we can:
Speak out against sexual assault and domestic Violence.
Have those difficult conversations about Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence.
Appreciate the Value of women at home and at work.
Believe Women are equal and deserve the same equity of life and respect and honor as men.
Instill respect for women in our Sons teaching and manhood.
When women or men are sexually assaulted, the abuser must pay for their actions. Society most play role in changing the attitude and views of the victims and the victimizer. There is no excuse or I’m sorry that change the rules of accountability.
EEOC Harassment Statistics
According to the EEOC, $52.3 million dollars in damages were received from claims in sexual harassment in 2011. The following statistics break down the results of harassment claims filed.
- Total Claims Filed: 11,364
- Percentage of Charges Filed By Males: 16.3%
- Settlements Made: 1,367 / 10.9%
- Withdrawals with Benefits: 1,150 / 9.1%
- Administrative Closures: 2,635 / 21%
- No Reasonable Cause: 6,658 / 53%
- Reasonable Cause: 761 / 6.1%
- Successful Conciliations: 288 / 2.3%
- Unsuccessful Conciliations: 473 / 3.8%
- Merit Resolutions: 3,278 / 26.1%
- What Consent Looks Like – The laws vary by state and situation, but you don’t have to be a legal expert to understand how consent plays out in real life.
- How to Respond if Someone Is Pressuring You – If someone is pressuring you to engage in sexual activity, it is important to remember that being in this situation is not your fault. Here are some strategies to try.
- Safety Planning – Brainstorming ways to stay safe may help reduce the risk of future harm.
- Safety Tips for Traveling – Whether you travel often or you’re getting ready for a once-in-a-lifetime vacation, it’s important to think about safety as part of your travel preparations.
- Alcohol Safety – There are steps you can take to increase your safety in situations where drinking may be involved. Like any safety tips, they are not foolproof, but they may help you feel more secure in social situations.